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Problems, Success, And Everything In Between

My peers have looked to me for solutions to their problems. I never thought of the help I provided to them as a start to my brand. I have always been a leader, someone who made things happen. I remember being in high school trying to figure out what “real life” would look like for me. How I could take over the world? I wanted to be well-known in my high school for doing great things. Setting a path for others to follow and reflect on. I was a teenager with big dreams and now I’m a Starrah creating open doors for this next generation to follow.  I began to realize that with only two months left of 2012, how much impact I have had on my Starrahs?  I go about my everyday life and sometimes forget that I have loved ones who are waiting on my first book to be published. I’m published in my friend Ashley Hill’s book “Celebrating The Journey: Rediscovering Me“. Starrahs pick up your copy today.  That was a true honor for me to be featured in a book that deals with facing adversities and achieving your academic goals.  I know all to well about that, but the good thing about this story is how authentic Ashley’s story is and how she achieved her successes.  There are so few of us who can weather the storm and push on to our destined life.  Now it is not an easy path by any means, but the rewards that follow are endless. I know for sure that her JOURNEY is one we all can learn from and explore ways to CELEBRATE how far we’ve come.

I was talking to a best friend of mine and she was griping about the struggles going on in her life at the moment.  As a good friend, I listened, but when I got home a few things came to mind 1) She is going to love that Masters degree once it’s all over only a few more months left. 2) She’s maintained her sanity while balancing 4 jobs two she gets paid for and the other two pays her back via the universe. 3) I admire her courage to be the first to achieve this goal that only few black people have been able to accomplish. 4) I’ll be holding up a huge “YOU DID IT” sign at her college graduation in May 2013. 5) And lastly how fortunate am I to have a dear person like her in my life as an inspiration to keep me going. 

You see what I learned is sometimes it’s alright to not be the problem solver, but rather the reflective mirror.  When someone talks to me about a struggle they are going through my first reaction is not to solve the problem.  I’m listening for ways they can improve their situation and get out of their own way.  Often times I have been in the way of my blessings, blocking the very people who should be connected to my energy at that time.  I don’t have much to complain about because in the scheme of life.  Most of the adversities I’ve faced in 2012 weren’t as big as what I faced in 2004 or 2005.  October is a special month to me and later on this month I’ll elaborate why.  For now I want to leave you with this.  People often tell me, “Willie you’re always happy why is that?”  The reality is not everyday is a happy day, but I understand that struggles don’t last always.  Plus I have positive people in my life who are my reflective mirrors and won’t allow me to crumble.


Willie J

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Posted by on October 17, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks


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