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Creating Your Own Lane!!!!

Creating Your Own Lane!!!!

Sometimes life gets demanding as one gets older. Your views change, people change, & your circumstances evolve. For me the challenge has been how do l make life happen the way l envision it & still be open to the inevitable changes. For me it’s been ever-changing. The main lesson l continue to learn from life is to stay in motion even if it hurts. l remember being in college as a freshman signing up for spring semester and then calling home to find out my father had died that morning. My family had been trying to get a hold of me, but l had my phone on vibrate because l was in class that morning. Here it was something tragic had happened at the same time, as l was signing up for my adulthood future. l’ll go into further detail later this month as it marks my father’s 10 Year Anniversary of him relaxing in heaven. I said all of that to say, l had to keep moving even when l cried my eyes out. I had to get in the mind frame that l had something bigger to complete and that if l gave too much energy into my father’s death. I too would be defeated, full of regrets, & not able to enjoy life as it was intended for me.

We all are put on earth to do great works, so wasting ones talent to appease your family, friends, or whomever else is a faux pas. Every day is a new day to try something new, give way to a new idea, try some new food, create a new positive habit, etc. Right now life is moving me into my place in the Mogul World. I’m throwing an event on October 18th, 2014 called “l Got $5 On lt” this the first event l’ve put together and there is a lot of work involved. I have much respect for event planners and having this kind of stress is not for the weak. I’m still finishing up a few things, but am so glad l started planning this early. Word to the wise, EARLY PLANNING= A HAPPIER YOU! l started doing meetings back in August and then got some dates in mind & the rest flowed from there. l’ll be doing a post about the event once it’s over, so don’t worry Starrahs, y’all will be in the loop.

l want you all to know that if you want to be successful than you’ve got to roll with the changes. For years l did events for other people or threw my own touch to someone else’s party. Now l am ready to take the risks and see how l can add my spin on things from beginning to end. I wanted my brand to grow and here a created opportunity to do so. I cannot wait to announce some of the other projects I am doing in the coming months. All I can say is my voice is being heard and the right people are taking notice. The best part about these experiences is not the material or monetary gain; it’s about building an ongoing business relationship that’ll create a new lane for other STARRAHS to follow. Someone gave me a start because they saw potential in where l am going. Now l am using my potential and help other’s brands grow, which in turn will help me evolve too.

Starrahs Don’t Be Afraid To Help Someone Else You Might Create Your Lane After all!

Still Figuring It Out,
-Willie J

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Posted by on September 25, 2014 in Uncategorized


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Vroom, Vroom To Life!!!

Whew! October flew by me and November is blazing through quickly.  I’ve been having a range of things going on at the moment. For example, I’ve been enlisted to help proofread an article that will debut very soon and give my Starrah touch to it.  Also I recorded a Promo Commercial for my friend’s Restaurant “Simply Irresistible Restaurant & Catering.” I’m proud of their success and am willing to lend my help to a great brand.  Next month will mark my car, Kim’s 9th Birthday. She’s a 94’ Toyota Corolla!  I’ve been extremely BLESSED to have had my car for this long period of time.  I remember when I got it as a Christmas gift my freshman year of college. I didn’t start driving it until that summer. 

There I was a young 19 year old, working, and taking care of my first car.  I recently took it to the shop to get some back brake work done and a wheel alignment.  My friends always ask me if I still have the same car and without hesitation I say, “YES I DO.”  I’ve survived wrecks, snow storms, heavy rains, sunny days, & gorgeous nights.  I remember at 16 when I was interested in driving I’d always see my God Mom driving this blue car and I said to myself, “I want that car one day.”  Who knew I’d have it 3 years later, the power of speaking your life into existence.  Mind you I never told anyone that I wanted that car.  It feels GOOD to know that hard work never goes unnoticed.  It doesn’t matter how WEALTHY I am, Kim is gonna be with me until she decides it’s time for us to part ways. I’m grateful that I’ve been able to stay consistent and keep the important things in my life consistent too. 

So many people feel like if they get this new car they’d be happier.  What they don’t see is that new car is a temporary fix.  They can have a million cars and still not be satisfied.  For me I’m good with longevity and classic pieces: Friends, Family, & Books.  These are timeless in my life and somehow make me feel complete when I need them most.  If we could all reflect on the few TIMELESS pieces we’ve collected.  Maybe then Starrahs will we find what truly keeps our engines going?

Starrahs, what are the THREE things you can’t live without? Share your thoughts….

Alive & Well, 

Willie J

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Posted by on November 12, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks


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Single Life…. Why Me???



Like many of my friends, I too am single.  I used to think I’d be in a relationship by now and finding a connection with someone who complemented me.  The reality is, I haven’t connected with that person yet, but I stay confident that it will happen.  Most of the people I know who are in relationships about 50% of them are not happy.  They’re settling whether it’s due to having kids or for convenience.  I don’t have time for a convenient relationship because my brand stays busy, so my future Boo needs to be on that track too. How is it that I’ve managed to stay afloat during these struggling times and yet most people don’t even try?  My mentality has always been to keep going and never settle. That’s probably why I finished college at Kent, when my mother wanted me to come home after my father died. I started this blog because I desired a bigger platform to reach the masses.  Not to mention, I didn’t settle for good enough when it showed up at my door step looking like the youthful version of the crypt keeper with an empty heart.


I’m forever stressing the importance of knowing your SELF-WORTH.  I know that one day my life will be open enough to share this empire with, but you gotta work for it. And it’s going to be a challenge because I’m a big deal and will not down play my light for other’s egos.  There has been a joy to having a single life. I get to travel to Ontario and Windsor, Canada and recently to New York City.  I got to meet a lot of interesting people and that let’s me know that my future Boo may be in another state waiting for us to connect.  The good lessons I’ve learned in my twenties are to stay true to myself and don’t waiver my standards because of the fear of loneliness. Hey I’ve been by myself from my teenage to adult years and been doing just fine.  When I’m ready to move into the relationship aspect of my life the divine order will make it happen.  I’ve gone one a few dates, but I knew before the first bite of food that there would be no second or third date for that matter.  I’m not looking for perfection, I deserve someone accomplished.  My brand has grown greatly over this year alone and more things are in the works.  So why on earth would I settle for “I think I can” kind of individual?  When I know there is someone out there ambitious, driven, and attractive.  I’m all of those things and more. Being patient sometimes has its moments, but the payoffs have been worth it. I’d rather show up to my 10 year high school reunion, single, rather than put on a show with someone not worth my time.  


I do have great friends that I do lots of dates with and that helps.  We often talk about the dynamics of what makes a relationship work and how to know if this person is worth pursuing.  I’ve walked away from many of those conversations grateful because I get to live vicariously through them and catch the warning signs early.  Some of my friends have stable relationships that continuously build and others I don’t know how they stayed for so long.  If you can’t put money on the rent, groceries, or at least gas in the car, BYE,BYE.  There is no further discussion we need to have because if all you can offer me is good conversations, I can talk to myself.  Starrahs you must be willing to be honest with yourself regardless of your circumstances or age about the love you deserve.  If things aren’t getting better and there has been no GROWTH in the relationship.  It may be time to reevaluate if this relationship is a crutch for something else.  Often times we can hide in our relationships so that people don’t question what’s going on inside us.  What many of us forget is? You are who you attract.  So be mindful of the company you keep and the person you desire to share your love with.  I’m a firm believer in people’s energy can uplift or drain you.  It’s what we decide to do when it’s our Boo causing these shifts that are clear indicators if things are going in the right direction.


How many of you Starrahs out there are enjoying the SINGLE LIFE??? Tell me your thoughts?


Successfully Single,

Willie J

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Posted by on September 10, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks


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