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Vroom, Vroom To Life!!!

Whew! October flew by me and November is blazing through quickly.  I’ve been having a range of things going on at the moment. For example, I’ve been enlisted to help proofread an article that will debut very soon and give my Starrah touch to it.  Also I recorded a Promo Commercial for my friend’s Restaurant “Simply Irresistible Restaurant & Catering.” I’m proud of their success and am willing to lend my help to a great brand.  Next month will mark my car, Kim’s 9th Birthday. She’s a 94’ Toyota Corolla!  I’ve been extremely BLESSED to have had my car for this long period of time.  I remember when I got it as a Christmas gift my freshman year of college. I didn’t start driving it until that summer. 

There I was a young 19 year old, working, and taking care of my first car.  I recently took it to the shop to get some back brake work done and a wheel alignment.  My friends always ask me if I still have the same car and without hesitation I say, “YES I DO.”  I’ve survived wrecks, snow storms, heavy rains, sunny days, & gorgeous nights.  I remember at 16 when I was interested in driving I’d always see my God Mom driving this blue car and I said to myself, “I want that car one day.”  Who knew I’d have it 3 years later, the power of speaking your life into existence.  Mind you I never told anyone that I wanted that car.  It feels GOOD to know that hard work never goes unnoticed.  It doesn’t matter how WEALTHY I am, Kim is gonna be with me until she decides it’s time for us to part ways. I’m grateful that I’ve been able to stay consistent and keep the important things in my life consistent too. 

So many people feel like if they get this new car they’d be happier.  What they don’t see is that new car is a temporary fix.  They can have a million cars and still not be satisfied.  For me I’m good with longevity and classic pieces: Friends, Family, & Books.  These are timeless in my life and somehow make me feel complete when I need them most.  If we could all reflect on the few TIMELESS pieces we’ve collected.  Maybe then Starrahs will we find what truly keeps our engines going?

Starrahs, what are the THREE things you can’t live without? Share your thoughts….

Alive & Well, 

Willie J

 
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Posted by on November 12, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks

 

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Excuse My Age, I Was Born With Greatness! 11/08 by All Things Willie J | Blog Talk Radio

 Hey Starrahs this is my 3rd installment of my All Things Willie J radio show. Check It Out: “Excuse My Age, I Was Born With Greatness” I’ll be posting more blog entries this weekend and next week too. Thanks for rolling on with me. Give me your feed back Starrahs…

Enjoy the show,

-Willie J

 
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Posted by on November 8, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks

 

Problems, Success, And Everything In Between

My peers have looked to me for solutions to their problems. I never thought of the help I provided to them as a start to my brand. I have always been a leader, someone who made things happen. I remember being in high school trying to figure out what “real life” would look like for me. How I could take over the world? I wanted to be well-known in my high school for doing great things. Setting a path for others to follow and reflect on. I was a teenager with big dreams and now I’m a Starrah creating open doors for this next generation to follow.  I began to realize that with only two months left of 2012, how much impact I have had on my Starrahs?  I go about my everyday life and sometimes forget that I have loved ones who are waiting on my first book to be published. I’m published in my friend Ashley Hill’s book “Celebrating The Journey: Rediscovering Me“. Starrahs pick up your copy today.  That was a true honor for me to be featured in a book that deals with facing adversities and achieving your academic goals.  I know all to well about that, but the good thing about this story is how authentic Ashley’s story is and how she achieved her successes.  There are so few of us who can weather the storm and push on to our destined life.  Now it is not an easy path by any means, but the rewards that follow are endless. I know for sure that her JOURNEY is one we all can learn from and explore ways to CELEBRATE how far we’ve come.

I was talking to a best friend of mine and she was griping about the struggles going on in her life at the moment.  As a good friend, I listened, but when I got home a few things came to mind 1) She is going to love that Masters degree once it’s all over only a few more months left. 2) She’s maintained her sanity while balancing 4 jobs two she gets paid for and the other two pays her back via the universe. 3) I admire her courage to be the first to achieve this goal that only few black people have been able to accomplish. 4) I’ll be holding up a huge “YOU DID IT” sign at her college graduation in May 2013. 5) And lastly how fortunate am I to have a dear person like her in my life as an inspiration to keep me going. 

You see what I learned is sometimes it’s alright to not be the problem solver, but rather the reflective mirror.  When someone talks to me about a struggle they are going through my first reaction is not to solve the problem.  I’m listening for ways they can improve their situation and get out of their own way.  Often times I have been in the way of my blessings, blocking the very people who should be connected to my energy at that time.  I don’t have much to complain about because in the scheme of life.  Most of the adversities I’ve faced in 2012 weren’t as big as what I faced in 2004 or 2005.  October is a special month to me and later on this month I’ll elaborate why.  For now I want to leave you with this.  People often tell me, “Willie you’re always happy why is that?”  The reality is not everyday is a happy day, but I understand that struggles don’t last always.  Plus I have positive people in my life who are my reflective mirrors and won’t allow me to crumble.

Graceful,

Willie J

 
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Posted by on October 17, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks

 

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My First Show Debut!

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Posted by on October 11, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks

 

Continuing On Starrah!!!

Fall is here so you know 2012 is winding down.  I’ve got a few things I still want to accomplish. Launching my radio show is going to give me a clearer focus on the things that are important to my brand. The cool thing about this is I get to express my thoughts through technology and voice my perspective on things I rarely talk about.  Lately there have been many topics floating throughout the world and I’ve got a lot to say about it.  The focus of this show isn’t to win more Starrahs I’m good there, but to expand out thinking and seek alternative solutions. 

 Like most people, I too have experienced disappointments and made mistakes.  I learned from them too and now I’m ready to share a few of those experiences with the world at large. Being a mogul has various responsibilities and lately I’ve been off track. I used to have energy to write for hours and hours, but that slowly lingered off. However, I am steadily getting back to the things that matter most to me. I needed a break from being responsible for others because it was taking a toll on my body.  I have been talking with my inner circle and they have given me ways to improve myself and my brand.  Sometimes being all over the place does not help matters at all.  I am finding ways to do one task at a time and giving myself realistic deadlines too.  I have a few goals that I want to accomplish in 2013 and I want to take on bigger challenges, bigger than myself.  I know for sure that I’m meant to work with people and speak to the masses with my divine light.

 I’m making a PROMISE to myself that I’ll be more accountable for the improvement of my well-being.  Still I remain patient on the expansion of my platform because I know there are many people I’ll be working with and partnering up ways to improve our brands.  I got a phone call this morning from my dear friend wanting my input on a branding decision, which proves to me that my voice is stronger than I realized.  My friend could’ve called anyone in the world, but instantly thought of me. I’m grateful to be thought of and see the impact I have on others.

 Thanks for reading Starrahs may your path of fulfilling goals before 2012 begin today. It’s never too early or too late.

 

Back In The Race,

Willie J

 
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Posted by on October 7, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks

 

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Single Life…. Why Me???

 

 

Like many of my friends, I too am single.  I used to think I’d be in a relationship by now and finding a connection with someone who complemented me.  The reality is, I haven’t connected with that person yet, but I stay confident that it will happen.  Most of the people I know who are in relationships about 50% of them are not happy.  They’re settling whether it’s due to having kids or for convenience.  I don’t have time for a convenient relationship because my brand stays busy, so my future Boo needs to be on that track too. How is it that I’ve managed to stay afloat during these struggling times and yet most people don’t even try?  My mentality has always been to keep going and never settle. That’s probably why I finished college at Kent, when my mother wanted me to come home after my father died. I started this blog because I desired a bigger platform to reach the masses.  Not to mention, I didn’t settle for good enough when it showed up at my door step looking like the youthful version of the crypt keeper with an empty heart.

 

I’m forever stressing the importance of knowing your SELF-WORTH.  I know that one day my life will be open enough to share this empire with, but you gotta work for it. And it’s going to be a challenge because I’m a big deal and will not down play my light for other’s egos.  There has been a joy to having a single life. I get to travel to Ontario and Windsor, Canada and recently to New York City.  I got to meet a lot of interesting people and that let’s me know that my future Boo may be in another state waiting for us to connect.  The good lessons I’ve learned in my twenties are to stay true to myself and don’t waiver my standards because of the fear of loneliness. Hey I’ve been by myself from my teenage to adult years and been doing just fine.  When I’m ready to move into the relationship aspect of my life the divine order will make it happen.  I’ve gone one a few dates, but I knew before the first bite of food that there would be no second or third date for that matter.  I’m not looking for perfection, I deserve someone accomplished.  My brand has grown greatly over this year alone and more things are in the works.  So why on earth would I settle for “I think I can” kind of individual?  When I know there is someone out there ambitious, driven, and attractive.  I’m all of those things and more. Being patient sometimes has its moments, but the payoffs have been worth it. I’d rather show up to my 10 year high school reunion, single, rather than put on a show with someone not worth my time.  

 

I do have great friends that I do lots of dates with and that helps.  We often talk about the dynamics of what makes a relationship work and how to know if this person is worth pursuing.  I’ve walked away from many of those conversations grateful because I get to live vicariously through them and catch the warning signs early.  Some of my friends have stable relationships that continuously build and others I don’t know how they stayed for so long.  If you can’t put money on the rent, groceries, or at least gas in the car, BYE,BYE.  There is no further discussion we need to have because if all you can offer me is good conversations, I can talk to myself.  Starrahs you must be willing to be honest with yourself regardless of your circumstances or age about the love you deserve.  If things aren’t getting better and there has been no GROWTH in the relationship.  It may be time to reevaluate if this relationship is a crutch for something else.  Often times we can hide in our relationships so that people don’t question what’s going on inside us.  What many of us forget is? You are who you attract.  So be mindful of the company you keep and the person you desire to share your love with.  I’m a firm believer in people’s energy can uplift or drain you.  It’s what we decide to do when it’s our Boo causing these shifts that are clear indicators if things are going in the right direction.

 

How many of you Starrahs out there are enjoying the SINGLE LIFE??? Tell me your thoughts?

 

Successfully Single,

Willie J

 
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Posted by on September 10, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks

 

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Acting The Part

 

 

I’ve been reflecting on my career and when it actually began. I think it started around 16 yrs old, as a sophomore at Glenville Senior High School. Now as I look back at my high school years I was a mogul then and took care of my business. I began my acting career on stage under the direction of my Speech Presentation/Drama teacher, Mr. Cornell Calhoun, who has been my mentor for over 10 years. I was nervous auditioning for the role of “Husband” in a play called “Old Settler.” There were four of us in the cast, Anita Tobin, Anjillian “AJ” Hill, & Luckey Dickerson & myself. We worked hard and learned our lines fast. Even at that young of an age I felt like I was on a Broadway stage. I take being an actor seriously. When I’m in acting mode nothing else matters, but getting the scene done right. We all understood how important it was to show our talents because our community would be watching us. It was all about making sure we portrayed our characters the proper way they were meant to be.

  So after a few weeks of rehearsal it was SHOW TIME. We did Amazing and Mr. Calhoun came up on stage, PROUD & CRYING, tears streaming down his face. I still remember that moment. He was so proud of us because we came ALIVE on STAGE and SHINED. We got a standing ovation from the crowd. I knew at that moment I was a part of something big. Here I was this outspoken kid who has a lot to say and now the foundation for my platform is in front of me, on stage. The first time I had ever done a play was in the 5th grade. I didn’t understand what was going on then. All I knew was not to mess up my lines. Now as a teenager it all made sense as to why I loved being on stage in front of a crowd of people. There’s this one line in Old Settler where I say, “She used to kiss me good night.” I was referencing my character’s affection he received from his mother and how he was trying to smooth talk Lo Bessie, his on the side boo, into some adult fun action. (Laughs) This play took place before all of these reality shows and the drama in that play was deep. It’s actually a movie starring Phylicia Rashad, and Debbie Allen and a host of other talented actors. I got to see the movie a few years after we did this production. Let me say I did pretty good. (Smiles) 

What I gained from that experience and carried away with me is whatever you do, do it well. Whatever project your name is attached too represents your brand, so choose who you want to work with wisely. Fortunately for me I worked with top notch actors and had an AWARD-WINNING director/playwright.  Yes in high school I was surrounded by greatness. I treated every play I did from that point on like an award-winning performance. That is what has allowed me various opportunities to do various plays and take breaks in between to enjoy life. I know there will come a time when the focus is the stage and television world. That is why I continue to maintain a grounded lifestyle that suits me and my circle of loved ones.

 Mr. Calhoun gave me these words of wisdom back in 2004, after graduating high school: “Never leave the stage, never drop the pen, never cease to smile. You are an original.” I reflect on these words often because I’ve never stopped being active in my artistic career. One of the things I’m glad I did was remain PATIENT. I thought I’d be on stages all over the world by now most of the year. What I discovered was it wasn’t time for that yet because I needed to close up any gaps going on in my personal life. Beyond being a writer, actor, entertainer, I am a son. I have now gained the proper stability needed for me to expand my career and let my Mom do her thing. I know that the next role I do will push me further as an actor and shine in my craft. My goal is not to become a famous actor; it’s to become an actor of creative substance. I also want to get in the directors chair too and elevate other actors/actress’ careers. I THANK everyone who has come to support me in any of my theatrical endeavors. I appreciate all of the love and grateful for your continued belief in me.

 What’s your big dream or dreams Starrah’s? Share them.

 Takes A Bow,

Willie J

 

 
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Posted by on August 29, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks

 

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You’ve Been Rejected…. Now What???

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Most of us go through rejection at some point in our lives. It’s what we do after the rejection happens that makes the difference. Recently, I was teaming up with an organization to help the youth. I did everything I needed to do to prepare for the success of the program. I expressed my truths and got a phone call saying “Willie you cannot be a part of this program we don’t support who you are.” I was shocked by this ignorance because I had not exhibited any reason for me to suddenly get dropped. The sad part is this was to benefit the youth. If anything because of my diverse background and education I would be a great advocate of what a successful man looks like. I have been a part of various organizations geared towards empowering our youth and served as their mentor.

It saddens me to see that my own people would cut my blessings because of their short comings and insecurities, which have nothing to do with me. I called my friends and they gave me support and said, “Willie God’s got something even bigger in store for you.” I was hurt because my character was misjudged and assumptions were made about me and this person never gave me a chance. Actually they did give me a chance. My light outshined theirs and because I’m secure with being Willie that’s intimidating enough. Instead of them embracing our differences they chose to run from it. The lesson I continually am learning as a mogul is the power of ALIGNMENT. If someone isn’t comfortable in their skin and lacks social stability I cannot do business nor partner with them. I have various projects going on at the moment and partnered up with other moguls who understand my vision and allow our STARRAH powers to shine.

 You never know where a person is going or when you might need their help. Starrahs please be mindful of the people you reject or throw away because they may be the gatekeeper for an opportunity for your brand to grow. I will continue to walk in my truth and integrity because that is all I have. The best part about this whole this too is even though this person rejected me they still gave me respect. How? Through me remaining calm, assertive, yet a little irritated and angry, but I didn’t allow my emotions to take over. If I allowed that to happen, then that individual would have counter transferred their negativity into my energy. I was not letting that happen because they did not create me. I know who my creator is and why I’m DIVINELY FAVORED.

Another tip I want to share with everyone is the power of silence. When I received the phone call this individual had not heard from me at all. Due to me not responding to their snide comments in person, their mind began to wonder. They became so invested as to what I was thinking; they created my thoughts for me. I would suggest to anyone who has a conflict with another person do not play mind reader it can stifle you. So when that person called me, being rational and hearing me out was not an option because they already made my mind up for me. That further proves that when someone is INSECURE it will show up in various ways if you listen to what the person is saying. I suggest that when you are in conflict it is best to ask that person questions to give you better CLARITY on how to deal with the issue at hand. I have avoided a lot of big problems in my life and career because of that.

Don’t get me wrong I get emotional too, but I’ve learned tactful ways of expressing myself. I cannot act like a teenager when I am an adult. When adults resort to childish ways they lose more energy and inner peace. I thought about yelling and staying angry, but realized quickly that wouldn’t fix the issue. My best option was to find a way to FORGIVE this person and shake off their negative aura. I am in the strongest mind frame I’ve ever been in a long time. Many people can try to break me, but you will only feed me with MY PURPOSE. When one door closes 20,000 more will open and the aligned purpose will find me. Never let someone tell you who they think YOU are as an absolute truth because they may be the same ones jealous of your growth, especially when they see you as being beneath them and unworthy of being competition. Don’t waste your breath or energy trying to prove that you are worthy and that you being here on earth was not a mistake or coincidence. We all have a PURPOSE to fulfill before we take our last breath. It is up to us if we’re going to go for it or wait for the opportunities to show up. As for me I am all about seeking other resources for help and connecting with the UNHEARD voices of the world. 

How many of you Starrahs have allowed your dreams to be deferred because of others’ opinions or fear of rejection? Are you willing to change your thinking now and go with the flow of your DESTINY…. Or will you stay content and wait for things to happen?

Always Persevering,

Willie J

 
 

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My Friends Are….?

My Friends Are….?

 

Friendships are there to show us how to grow. I always thought people that grew up with me would be present in my adult years. Some have and some have moved on. I learned that once boundaries are set, friends will either accept them or not. The bigger picture is as we grow more into our authentic self the friends around us compliment where we’re going. Otherwise they become stumbling blocks and distractions to our dreams if we allow them. I came up with four indicators on when its time to call a friendship quits.

 

1)    It’s Always Your Fault– Regardless the problem you and your friend may be having. The blame is placed solely on you and your friend cannot take responsibility for their role in the situation. Each time you tell them their problem they flip it back on you. One sided friendships happen more as we get older. It becomes difficult for people to express their feelings and concerns. If you find yourself in this kind of a situation know that it may be time to take a break. Most people don’t realize the importance of a good friendship until it’s gone and some don’t recognize how vital you were in their life.

2)  Friendship Loses Value– Most of us place our friendships on a pedestal of strong meaning in our life. Friends normally come after family in the level of important people. We share our secrets, dreams, hopes, and sad times with our friends. I remember when my father died and how many of my friends comforted me; whether it was a card, phone call, or visit. All of their support meant a lot to me. However, as time went on I realized that my goals didn’t match some of my friends and we were in two different places in life. When I saw some of them we barely could hold a conversation or they felt threatened by my successes: college degree, play productions, building a brand. There were a few who felt that because I am living out my dreams that I had become better than them. The reality was I am better than no one, but I do have a higher worth than some. I refused to down play my life to feed their lowered self-expectations. The bottom line is to know what friendships add value to your life and which ones to deposit back into the universe.

3)  Communication No Longer Exist– In any relationship communication is key, but in friendships it’s a top priority. Communication is one of the fastest ways to know if your friendship still exists. For instance, one time I called a friend to share some important news with them about my career. When we talked that friend wasn’t present and the conversation became about them and their problems. Then they called me a few days later to share some of their good news and I tuned them out too. That was a clear sign that communication was fizzling and there was no turning back. I thought back to how close we used to be and the strong connection we had, but it wasn’t the same. I’m all for change as long as the person’s character is still intact. I no longer felt the need to communicate what was going on with me because I knew that person couldn’t support me the way I deserved. Communication is a foundation that needs constant building if you can’t be free to express how you feel then it may be time to reevaluate the friendship.

4)  When Your Friendship Stifles Your Growth– As we get older our surroundings change. You may have grown up poor, but are now living within your comfortable means. You’re able to buy a home, new car, or take that cruise to the Bahamas for a week. Some of your friends may still live in the same neighborhood you grew up in or continue doing the same things they did as teenagers. Whenever you go back to you neighborhood you see that friend and they look at you funny or says “You’ve changed.” I sure hope many of us have changed because we’re supposed to. I can’t be saying that I’m a Mogul, but take no actions to become one. I have to connect with other successful people making an impact in the world and I can learn from them. There are going to be friendships you have to let go due to the changes happening in your life. Even if you’ve been friends with someone for over 20 plus years that doesn’t guarantee them access to the perks to your life. It doesn’t guarantee that they’ll still be loyal to you. Success changes you and the friends around you too. Suddenly that friend who never asked for money, starts asking for a few thousand become they feel entitled to it. I encourage us to never let anyone attach themselves to your successes for personal gain. What people fail to realize is…. It’s your success, which means you handle your rewards your own way.

 

I learned a lot during my college years and early twenties about friendships. How they change? How friends react to my successes? How many friends are rooting for me and not jealous? Friendship is about building a bond that helps balance one another. If we’re both successful in our brands then there is no need for competition or to feel threatened. To the friends that are in my circle and creating your path, your way I am honored to watch you grow. Understand that this isn’t about me; it’s about us all growing more into the Starrahs we’re meant to be. Friends are the reflections of us make sure you’ve got the best ones representing who you are. 

Tell me Starrahs how many friends did you have to let go or rebuild your connection with?

 

Staying Well Connected,

Willie J

 
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Posted by on July 8, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks

 

Happy 1 Year Anniversary!!!

This Is Where It All Started in Brooklyn, NY! (April, 2011)

What inspires me at the moment???? I was recently watching Justine Simmons and Serena Williams both on Home Shopping Network channel (HSN) showing off their jewelry line and clothing line respectively. I gained so much inspiration seeing them promote their products and customers buying up everything. In today’s economy it becomes so easy to forget about treating ourselves. I try to treat myself to something at least once a month whether it’s a pastry or dinner at a new restaurant. I have a special passion for HSN because I see that as my next outlet to reach the masses. There’s an idea I’ve been brewing inside my head for a few years now and all I envision is being on TV promoting it and talking to my customers. Soon that dream will manifest and you’ll be reading about my HSN experience in future blog post. To me it goes beyond promoting products for financial gain, it’s about promoting a piece of yourself and others want to invest in what you’re selling. Sounds easy right?

I remember growing up as a kid and thinking about ways I could make money. I thought about designing clothes, cooking, writing books, etc.  As I grew up those ideas stuck with me, I still see my clothes being worn across the world, cooking for friends at one of my dinner parties, and traveling on a book tour.  When I see some of my favorite people living their dreams and having a memorable time while doing so, it motivates me.  There were many days I didn’t know whether I’d write past one blog post or if I could reach anyone with my thoughts and stories.  Now its 1 year later and All Things Willie J is still going strong.  I still reflect on this being an idea of creating “Optimism” and letting things flow from there.  Sometimes all it takes is one theme to spawn many creative avenues of opportunity.  As I embrace the new changes of 2012 and continue Springing forward into what lies ahead for me.  All I can do is THANK all of my Starrahs for your continued support, advice, and for helping me live out one of my dreams: WRITING…  I know that this gift can’t be taken lightly because I could lose everything in an instant, which is why I strive to be a vessel of INSPIRATION.  There is so much in store for the Willie J brand and I know as we grow together we’re going to travel the world and break bread together. 

I have come a LONGGGG way and I LOVE this space I built for US.  The world was missing a LIGHT, so I turned mine on.  Now we’re shining brighter than anyone could ever imagine.  This summer I have a lot of projects to share with y’all.  My how time is flying by and it’s on 4 months into the New Year. This month is special to me for many reasons, but the biggest one for me would be “HEARD.”  At times our lives can get noisy and we feel drowned out and get out of touch with what’s important to US. I will continue to show MY TRUTH and navigate with my goals intact.  I refuse to be a second thought. “Willie has all this potential, but didn’t use it.” I can’t rob US from experiencing GREATNESS together. So here’s to 1 year of PROGRESSION to a 1000 years of Starrah Power! May We Cheers to that!

Be Sure to Check Out my Starrah Testimonials Page… Told y’all I’ve been working! More is on the way…

P.S. The picture above is the brunch I had w/ my friend Kell who helped me brainstorm my idea for this site. It pays to have friends that get your vision and allows their energy to expand your growth.

Glad We Made It,

-Willie J

 
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Posted by on April 21, 2012 in The Starrah © Speaks