Like many of my friends, I too am single. I used to think I’d be in a relationship by now and finding a connection with someone who complemented me. The reality is, I haven’t connected with that person yet, but I stay confident that it will happen. Most of the people I know who are in relationships about 50% of them are not happy. They’re settling whether it’s due to having kids or for convenience. I don’t have time for a convenient relationship because my brand stays busy, so my future Boo needs to be on that track too. How is it that I’ve managed to stay afloat during these struggling times and yet most people don’t even try? My mentality has always been to keep going and never settle. That’s probably why I finished college at Kent, when my mother wanted me to come home after my father died. I started this blog because I desired a bigger platform to reach the masses. Not to mention, I didn’t settle for good enough when it showed up at my door step looking like the youthful version of the crypt keeper with an empty heart.
I’m forever stressing the importance of knowing your SELF-WORTH. I know that one day my life will be open enough to share this empire with, but you gotta work for it. And it’s going to be a challenge because I’m a big deal and will not down play my light for other’s egos. There has been a joy to having a single life. I get to travel to Ontario and Windsor, Canada and recently to New York City. I got to meet a lot of interesting people and that let’s me know that my future Boo may be in another state waiting for us to connect. The good lessons I’ve learned in my twenties are to stay true to myself and don’t waiver my standards because of the fear of loneliness. Hey I’ve been by myself from my teenage to adult years and been doing just fine. When I’m ready to move into the relationship aspect of my life the divine order will make it happen. I’ve gone one a few dates, but I knew before the first bite of food that there would be no second or third date for that matter. I’m not looking for perfection, I deserve someone accomplished. My brand has grown greatly over this year alone and more things are in the works. So why on earth would I settle for “I think I can” kind of individual? When I know there is someone out there ambitious, driven, and attractive. I’m all of those things and more. Being patient sometimes has its moments, but the payoffs have been worth it. I’d rather show up to my 10 year high school reunion, single, rather than put on a show with someone not worth my time.
I do have great friends that I do lots of dates with and that helps. We often talk about the dynamics of what makes a relationship work and how to know if this person is worth pursuing. I’ve walked away from many of those conversations grateful because I get to live vicariously through them and catch the warning signs early. Some of my friends have stable relationships that continuously build and others I don’t know how they stayed for so long. If you can’t put money on the rent, groceries, or at least gas in the car, BYE,BYE. There is no further discussion we need to have because if all you can offer me is good conversations, I can talk to myself. Starrahs you must be willing to be honest with yourself regardless of your circumstances or age about the love you deserve. If things aren’t getting better and there has been no GROWTH in the relationship. It may be time to reevaluate if this relationship is a crutch for something else. Often times we can hide in our relationships so that people don’t question what’s going on inside us. What many of us forget is? You are who you attract. So be mindful of the company you keep and the person you desire to share your love with. I’m a firm believer in people’s energy can uplift or drain you. It’s what we decide to do when it’s our Boo causing these shifts that are clear indicators if things are going in the right direction.
How many of you Starrahs out there are enjoying the SINGLE LIFE??? Tell me your thoughts?